At a Glance
A tiny Quaker middle school built around small classes — and around kids who learn differently.
Best suited for
A middle schooler with a learning disability whose family wants tiny classes, individualized instruction, and a values-driven community — and who doesn't need the scale or social scene of a larger school.
What stands out
- An exceptionally small 6:1 student-teacher ratio, meaning most students get meaningful one-on-one time every day.
- Literacy and math groups capped at 3-6 students, a level of individualization rare outside of specialized programs.
- A working Rock Band program — a less common offering for a learning-differences middle school, and a real draw for kids who don't live for traditional athletics.
- An 8th-grade Spanish-immersion trip to Costa Rica that doubles as a graduation capstone and a confidence-builder.
- Quaker-based practices (consensus, simplicity, peace testimony) woven into school culture rather than tacked on as an ethics class.
Things to consider
- Tuition is $87,000 for 2025-2026, putting it at the very top of the NYC private middle school price band — worth weighing against any financial aid offered.
- This is a school purpose-built for students with learning disabilities; it is not a general middle school option and families outside that mission may want to look elsewhere.
- Recent parent reviews mention administrative friction, so it's worth talking to current families about the present-day climate before applying.
- The closest subway (Carroll St, F/G) is about an 8-minute walk, and the next two are both around 13 minutes — fine for most families but worth planning for winter mornings.
- The community is small and tight by design, which is the point, but it's a poor fit for kids who want a large peer group or competitive sports teams.
Identity
Mary McDowell Friends Middle is a private, Quaker-affiliated middle school serving grades 6 through 8, intentionally built around students with learning disabilities. The community is grounded in Quaker values — equality, integrity, simplicity, and social responsibility — and uses specialized teaching methodologies and differentiated instruction as its core approach.
Community
Parent reviews describe a nurturing, academically rigorous community where faculty know each student well and individualized learning is the norm. A few recent reviews flag concerns about administration, suggesting prospective families ask current parents about the current climate. We do not have specific student-body demographics, so the precise composition of the community is hard to characterize from the data at hand.
Neighborhood
The school sits in the Carroll Gardens / Cobble Hill / Gowanus / Red Hook area of Brooklyn, a family-oriented stretch where roughly two-thirds of adults hold a bachelor's degree and median household income is around $140,000. The neighborhood is well-educated and largely middle-to-upper-middle class, though no neighborhood quality scores or safety ratings are referenced here.
Carroll St on the F/G is about an 8-minute walk, while Smith-9 Sts and Bergen St (also F/G) are each about 13 minutes on foot.
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What Parents Are Saying
Nurturing, academically rigorous environment with dedicated faculty; praised for small class sizes and individualized learning; some concerns about administration noted in recent reviews
Synthesized from public parent reviews · Apr 2026
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Frequently Asked Questions
- Is MARY MCDOWELL FRIENDS - MIDDLE a good school?
- Published quality ratings aren't available for MARY MCDOWELL FRIENDS - MIDDLE yet on Motley. It's a private school serving grades 6 to 8 in Carroll Gardens-Cobble Hill-Gowanus-Red Hook.
- What grades does MARY MCDOWELL FRIENDS - MIDDLE serve?
- MARY MCDOWELL FRIENDS - MIDDLE serves grades 6 to 8.
- How do students get into MARY MCDOWELL FRIENDS - MIDDLE?
- MARY MCDOWELL FRIENDS - MIDDLE runs its own private admissions process — typically an application, a visit, and sometimes testing.
- Is MARY MCDOWELL FRIENDS - MIDDLE public, charter, or private?
- MARY MCDOWELL FRIENDS - MIDDLE is a private school.
- What neighborhood is MARY MCDOWELL FRIENDS - MIDDLE in?
- MARY MCDOWELL FRIENDS - MIDDLE is in Carroll Gardens-Cobble Hill-Gowanus-Red Hook, Brooklyn.